Do you feel like your new relationship is stagnant, but you're not sure why? You may be dating "the Thursday Guy." In this piece from Elle Magazine, Anna Davies explains what this new dating term is and how you can deal with it.
"You're seriously staying the night?" asked the guy who I'd been seeing. It was a Tuesday.
"You're kicking me out after midnight to go home alone?" I countered.
He hesitated before finally nodding.
"Okay, well, you have to stay on that side of the bed and be quiet. I need to sleep. Can you do that? I have a really early morning," he added. The note of panic in his voice made it sound like he was in a hostage situation, trying to reason with his kidnappers.
"Fine," I answered. I drifted off to sleep, pleased when he eventually draped his arm around me and pulled me toward him.
He was a classic Thursday Guy — we had a great time on the weekends, but he always had some sort of excuse when it came to weekday plans. I knew he was telling the truth — one time I called him on his cell at 8 p.m. on a Monday and heard obvious office noises in the background — but I couldn’t resist testing him. Which was why, on this particular weeknight when I’d finished drinks with friends near his neighborhood, I texted him and told him I was coming over.
That morning, we woke up to a 5:30 a.m. phone call from his boss followed by him frantically running to his computer and tripping over my bag in the process. The frazzled, nervous, naked man I saw in the early light of morning was nothing like the guy I'd gotten to know over the past few weekends. I got it: seeing him like this exposed some of his vulnerabilities and made him seem a lot more real than the debonair guy I’d spent the last month dating.
Of course, there are many more Thursday Guys like him out there dominating the singles scene today. More evolved than the Friends-with-Benefits Guy, the Thursday Guy knows better than to text you after midnight and isn’t shady when his friends spot you both out at a bar. He knows your hobbies, your alma mater, and your last name. He responds quickly to texts and will talk you through a sticky work situation. But ask him to actually hang out on a school night, and he’s full of excuses. Sound familiar? You're not alone.